Crabs In a Bucket

Rising Above The Crab Mentality of Others

Do people around you love to criticize whatever work you do even for the smallest things? Also, do you sense that they keep on backfighting and talking nasty things behind your back? Let me sum it up, it is crab mentality.

According to Wikipedia,

Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket, describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs. Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless “king of the hill” competition (or sabotage) which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise. The analogy in human behavior is that of a group that will attempt to “pull down” (negate or diminish the importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, conspiracy or competitive feelings.

Your reputation and everything you have worked for, especially when talking about work environment, can be very stressful if you are a victim of crab mentality. First thing that would come into your mind is, “Why me?”

It could be that there is nothing wrong with you. As a matter of fact, positively thinking, you have good characteristics which brings insecurity to others. Nevertheless, do not feel pressured just in case anxiety and stress attack because of this. I would recommend you do the following:

Staying away from bad vibes, bad people.

People around you may put you down for whatever reason so they can put themselves up. Create a new circle of people that brings a multitude of colorful fountain that will help hoist your spirits up. If you stay with negative-thinking people, the tendency is, you will just be sunk in their holes.

Talk with someone.

Never keep it to yourself. Pick someone from your friends or relatives whom you trust most. Tell things what your heart cries out. It may lead to depression if you do not share your feelings when anxiety builds up.

Also, you can write a blog, in which I am doing. Rant it all out, just make sure that you are aware of whatever you write online.

One thing I learned during my spiritual retreat is to find a place where you can think, just by yourself or with someone who is very close to you. Write whatever you wanted to say on a piece of paper. Say a little prayer and burn it to ashes. This will definitely help you in relieving the stress that brings when someone puts you down constantly.

Do not be disheartened by these people. Find new activities outside of work that can help you forget things temporarily. Join a gym club or continue your hobby. By this, it will help you not to keep thinking what could you have done wrong or how to put up a revenge.

Stay optimistic and be nice.

Apply the golden rule. Sometimes, it is not bad to believe in karma. Attract positive vibes from the universe and for sure, she will give it you.

Practice affirmations.

Never lose confidence with yourself especially when presented with tons of negativity around you. You can always counteract with subliminal messages and fill your mind, heart and spirit with positive thoughts each day you breathe. Whenever you are feeling sullen, repeat this simple  subliminal messages:

I am the author of my life.
I know that I am a good person.
I am self-reliant and very strong.
I have a wall that keeps negative people away from me.

Valentine's Day

Valentine Songs, A Facebook Experiment

Have you been playing songs on Spotify? If your account has been connected with your Facebook and if you are from the United States, your data could have been included in this Facebook Valentine Experiment.

With Valentine day set tomorrow, Facebook enlists the songs people listen to when entering into a relationship and after ending it:

Entering a relationship:

  1. Jason Derulo – Don’t Wanna Go Home
  2. Beyoncé – Love On Top
  3. Lil Wayne – How to Love
  4. Bruno Mars – Just The Way You Are
  5. Flo Rida – Good Feeling
  6. Jason Derulo – It Girl
  7. Gym Class Heroes featuring Adam Levine – Stereo Hearts
  8. Britney Spears – Criminal
  9. Wiz Khalifa – No Sleep
  10. John Mayer – Free Fallin’

Ending a relationship:

  1. Mumford and Sons – The Cave
  2. Drake ft. The Weekend – Crew Love
  3. Kanye West – All of the Lights
  4. Adele – Rolling in the Deep
  5. Drake ft. Rihanna – Take Care
  6. Bruno Mars – It Will Rain
  7. Rihanna and Calvin Harris – We Found Love
  8. Foster the People – Call It What You Want
  9. Selena Gomez and the Scene – Love You Like a Love Song
  10. David Guetta featuring Usher – Without You
Linsanity

Linsanity Morals from Jeremy Lin

Linsanity

Jeremy Lin

Jeremy Shu-How Lin, a few of those Asian Americans from Harvard is now playing in the NBA. Apart from his race and his phenomenal achievements for the New York Knicks against LA Lakers which gave the team a 4 straight win, what makes him special?

People struggle to achieve their dreams and goals. Jeremy conquered these and now, he’s at his peak, yet. Applying what he has learned in life can be beneficial to you, too.

1. Never stop believing in yourself.
As mentioned, he is those of few, who entered NBA despite of his race and where he graduated from.

2. Grab the opportunity while it is still hot.
Popular players from Knicks could not play because they were injured. Also, Baron Davis was gone and some of the guards were, too so they had to start from Lin. Great opportunities do not come often, so when you see it, grab it like a boss!

3. Go back to your roots, be family-oriented.
Everyone else may turn their backs on you, but not your family.

4. Do not be a copycat, be original, be yourself.
You do not want to be tagged as a shadow of someone else’s. Famous people are known because of their unique character. Most people who imitate do not reach the premier.

5. Work harder.
When everything has been served, support, opportunity, luck and the motivation, do not lose the momentum. Keep on going and go forth. Also, stay humble.

Les Mills Body Pump 81

Les Mills Tracklist – 1st Quarter 2012

Here are the tracklists of your favorite Les Mills programs. This is for the 1st quarter release, 2012.

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BODYJAM 60

Warmup/Isolations : Save The World (Zedd Remix) (Swedish House Mafia)
Moombahton : Horsey (Diplo)
Mambos : Wepa (Mix I) (Tomorrow’s World)
We found one close to me : We Found Love (Colourbox)
We found one close to me : One (Your Name) (Vocal Mix) (Swedish House Mafia feat. Pharrell)
We found one close to me : Close To Me (R3hab Remix) (Benny Benassi feat. Gary Go)
Recovery : Out Of My Head (Lupe Fiasco feat. Trey Songz)
Shufflin’ to Epicland : Save The World (Knife Party Remix) (Swedish House Mafia)
Shufflin’ to Epicland : Speak Up (Savant)
Shufflin’ to Epicland : Bullet (Original Mix) (Michael Woods)
Shufflin’ to Epicland : Indestructible (The Flask)
Groovedown : Love On Top (Beyoncé)
Bonus 13 – Moombahton : Feel So Close (Dillon Francis Remix) (Calvin Harris)
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Les Mills Body Jam 60

Body Jam 60

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BODYCOMBAT 51

Give Me Everything (Sunny Dee Remix) – Jason Born
Loud (Technoposse Remix Edit) – Big Diddy
Bark At The Moon – Fortified Pro
Here Tonight – Reality Charm And Solitude
Another Way To Die – Disturbed
Kung Foo Fighting – Kickers Kingdom
Where Them Girls At (Mix I) – Olson Bjerre
Born To Kill – Airbourne
Land Of Dance (Sy And Unknown Remix) – Retro And Flawless
Champion – Chipmunk feat. Chris Brown
Awake And Alive (Rock Radio Mix) – Skillet
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Les Mills Body Combat 51

Body Combat 51

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BODYBALANCE 56

Tai Chi Warmup : Stop And Stare (Fundmental Envy)
Sun Salutations : Euphoria (Firefly) (Parker & Surface Jave)
Standing Strength : Best Thing I Never Had (Beyoncé)
Balance : Someone Like You (Audiogroove)
Hip Openers : Run For It (Delerium feat. Leigh Nash)
Core – Abdominals : Love Will Always Win (Opshop)
Core – Back : This = Love (The Script)
Twists : Somewhere Only We Know (The Sense)
Forward Bends – Hamstrings : Running Up That Hill (Inevitable)
Forward Bends – Hamstrings : Angel (Blue Cloud)
Relaxation/Meditation : Acceptance (Paul Avgerinos)
Standing Strength : Search For The Hero (M People)
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Les Mills Body Balance 56

Body Balance 56

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BODYPUMP 81

You Make Me Feel… – Cobra Starship feat Sabi
Higher Ground – Jagged Eagle
Loud – Stan Walker
Ravers Fantasy (Manox remix) – Manian
Domino – Miss Daise
I Own You – Shinedown
San Francisco (Remix 11) – Fine Tune
Blood Is Pumping – Blade X
Mr Saxobeat – Alexandra Stan
Best Thing I Never Had – Beyoncé

Alternative tracks:
Dynamite (Remix IX) – Studio 88 feat Juno Mars
Breaking Inside – Shinedown feat. Lzzy Hale of Halestorm
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Les Mills Body Pump 81

Body Pump 81

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RPM 54

Pack Ride : Moves Like Jagger (Mix II) (January Rays feat. Riley)
Pace : San Francisco (Remix III) (Fine Tune)
Hills : Run To You (Hands Up Club Mix) (Jan Wayne feat. Fab)
Mixed Terrain : Every Teardrop Is A Waterfall (Coldplay)
Intervals : Scary Monsters And Nice Sprites (Dirtyphonics Remix) (Skrillex)
Speed Work : Just Be (Antillas Club Mix) (Tiesto feat. Kirsty Hawkshaw)
Mountain Climb : Hold Me Tonight (Empyre One Remix) (Manian)
Ride Home : Gotta Be Wrong Sometimes (O.A.R.)
Stretch : It Girl (Jason Derulo)
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Les Mills RPM 54

RPM 54

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SH’BAM 7

Track 1 : Good Feeling (Flo Rida)
Track 2 : Wepa (Mix II) (Tomorrow’s World)
Track 3 : Jai Ho! (You Are My Destiny) (Envy feat. Reachout)
Track 4 : Till The World Ends (Britney Spears)
Track 5 : Shake Senora Remix (Pitbull feat. T-Pain, Sean Paul & Ludacris)
Track 6 : Where Them Girls At (Mix III) (Computer Love feat. Climb Max)
Track 7 : Venus (Soda Club Remix) (Soda Club)
Track 8 : Sauve (Kiss Me) (Beat Bandits feat. Purified Junkies)
Track 9 : Footloose (The Agenda)
Track 10 : Don’t Wanna Go Home (Young Drake)
Track 11 : Teenage Dream (Bodytronixx)
Track 12 : All You Need Is Love (Active Conflict)
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Les Mills Sh'bam 7

Sh'bam 7

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BODYSTEP 87

Warmup : You Make Me Feel… (Yesterday Stomp feat. Diverse)
Step Warmup : Good Girl (Sushi Tribe)
Step Orientation : Moves Like Jagger (Mix I) (January Rays feat. Riley)
Step Athletic : Dance In The Dark (Southern Light)
Mixed Strength : Own This Club (DJ Mark)
Power Peak : Rockstar (The Claw)
Step Recovery : Make My Day (Beefy & Halo)
Party Step : Where Them Girls At (Mix II) (Olson Bjerre feat. Climb Max & Famous J.)
Speed Step : (Your Love Keeps Lifting Me) Higher And Higher (Mondo Libre)
Peak : Don’t Leave Me This Way (Velvet Affect)
Recovery/Conditioning : Cinema (Dee D. feat. DJ Gazz)
Cooldown/Stretch : Stereo Hearts (Radiation Leep feat. Amy L.)
Athletic Circuit Track : Two Tribes (Walking Wounded)
Athletic Circuit Track : Flash (Buck Wild)
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Les Mills Body Step 87

Body Step 87

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BODYATTACK 76

Warmup : San Francisco (Fine Tune)
Mixed Impact : Más (NXT)
Aerobic : Notorious (Global Nation)
Plyometric : Twilight Zone (Colourbox)
Upper Body Conditioning : You Got The Love (The Grace)
Running : Ridin Solo (Damn-R Remix) (Jason Born)
Agility : Badman Riddim (The Spring Act)
Interval : Angels (Reversal Switch)
Power : Don’t Wanna Go Home (Sunny Dee Remix) (Jason Born)
Lower Body Conditioning : Night Of Your Life (Olson Bjerre feat. Sam K.)
Core Conditioning : Tonight Tonight (Hot Chelle Rae )
Cooldown : All That You Are (The Goo Goo Dolls)
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Les Mills Body Attack 76

Body Attack 76

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BODYVIVE 22

Warmup : You Make Me Feel… (Cobra Starship feat. Sabi)
Cardio 1 : Just Be Good To Me (Simply Hyper)
Cardio 2 : Ladies Night (Workout Mix) (d’Macy)
Cardio 3 : Gimme Some Lovin’ (The Mick Lloyd Connection)
Peak Cardio : Get It On (Bodytronixx)
Active Recovery : Life’s What You Make It (Talk Talk)
Dynamic Strength : Why Don’t You Love Me (Jump Smokers Club Remix) (Beyoncé)
Integrated Strength : I Want A New Drug (Huey Lewis And The News)
Hips : Make My Heart (Dario Caminita & Andrea Corelli Radio Edit) (Toni Braxton)
Core 1 : Waterfront (Simple Minds)
Core 2 : Beautiful People (Chris Brown & Benny Benassi)
Stretch : The Only Exception (Paramore)
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Les Mills Body Vive 22

Body Vive 22

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